How to Speak Up in Meetings Without Overthinking Everything
You know the moment. You’re in a meeting. You have something smart, insightful, actually helpful to say… and then?
Your mind starts spinning. You question yourself. You hold back. Or you blurt it out, and then spend the rest of the day replaying how you came across.
This is what so many women call “overthinking.”
But it’s not that. This is leadership that’s been shaped by fear, not freedom. By people-pleasing. Perfectionism.
Performative standards that were never designed with your voice in mind.
This isn’t a communication issue. It’s a conditioning issue.
You’ve been told that your voice is too much, too quiet, too emotional, too unclear.
You’ve been told to earn your space in the room… instead of being taught how to feel safe taking it up.
So of course your nervous system flares up. Of course your brain starts rehearsing and revising before you even open your mouth. Of course you spiral.
It makes sense. But it doesn’t have to stay this way.
What does leadership actually look like in these moments?
It’s not about saying it louder. Or prepping better. It’s about learning how to lead yourself through the inner noise.
And that starts with asking different questions:
What would I say if I wasn’t trying to get it perfect?
What part of me is afraid right now?
Can I speak from presence instead of performance?
These are the questions that shift your relationship with your voice. And that is leadership—the kind no one ever taught you.
This kind of shift doesn’t come from reading another list of tips. It comes from unlearning everything that taught you to shrink in the first place.
It’s deep. It’s powerful. And it changes how you show up everywhere.
If you’ve been trying to fix this with “confidence hacks” and it’s still not clicking, you’re not broken. You’re just bumping up against a deeper layer of leadership.
This is the work we do inside my signature program: Rewiring the fear that’s been living in your leadership, and helping you come home to your voice with power, softness, and truth.
If that sounds like the next right step, I’d love to invite you in.
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