Finding Balance: Nurturing Self-Love and Establishing Professional Boundaries
I declined a work call with no guilt the other day.
And as I put my phone back into my pocket, remembered back to my first “big girl” job in LA, when my boss was texting at 10pm, and I replied.
Or my second job, when I would stay 1-2 hours late just to have long talks with my boss about absolutely nothing. Calls from my mom, boyfriend, texts from my friends getting ignored.
And my third job, checking emails on the train on the way to work, and then on the way home from work, too.
Could have left, could have ignored those texts. Could just put my phone down.
But, that feeling, that feeling of if I don’t reply RIGHT NOW, or stay and talk with my boss, or keep tabs on my email, then I’m a failure.
Not good enough. Won’t get that raise, promotion, or even acknowledgement of how hard I’m working.
That feeling in my chest, heart beating fast, thoughts spiraling. That guilt around how I sacrificed so much to move to LA and work in fashion.
So I better give it my all. I should probably just reply… Make sure they know I’m here, and that I care…
And, guess what? I was fired or laid off from all 3 of these jobs. My passion, all the extra work I put in didn’t mean anything to them at the end of the day. Business is just business.
Now, as I hit ignore on a call from my side gig. I feel neutral. Not good. Not bad. Just a moment in time.
When I got to work 30 minutes later, I checked in with that person to see how I could help.
As leaders, as employees, as co-workers, we get to model what we are accepting or not into our lives.
In my program, Not Your Dad’s Leadership, Self-Acceptance is one of the layers to leadership we work through. This layer is so important for embodying and practicing Self-Love daily.
We get to show up, start work on time, be passionate, do our best, and when it’s time to go, leave the work at work.
We will never regret spending more time with our partner, family, friends, or OURSELVES.
The work will be there tomorrow.
Breathe. Be present. And love yourself always. ❤️
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